Change or Die–
Could you change when change matters most?
by Alan Deutschman.
This is simply one of the best weight loss books I’ve ever read.
But it’s not a weight loss book.
The main topic of his book is “How to change when change isn’t coming naturally: when the difficulties stubbornly persist.“
Alan identified 3 Key Factors (and 9 Psychological-concepts) necessary to creating real lasting change. Even causing change against internal resistance, with numerous failures and against previous odds.
The factors aren’t the same old-positive thinking mumbo-jumbo either.
He builds his case with 3 different case studies heart patients, criminals and assembly line workers.(and without intent his own story)
The author say’s “People spend billions of dollars a year buying self-help and motivational tapes, videos, and books, joining health clubs and diet programs, seeing doctors and therapists, and hiring life coaches and business consultants-and yet they so often fail to realize their goals. The reason isn’t that they don’t want to change or can’t change but rather they don’t understand change or have the right tools to effect it.”
So what does this have to do with you finally getting the weight off?
The author has been there too.
Here’s what he say’s “I don’t know exactly when I became obese. It sounds ridiculous to say that obesity snuck up on me, or that I wasn’t really aware that it was happening at the time.”
Long story-short. The author had from the age of 25 at 155lbs, gained 70lbs by age 33 . While writing for GQ magazine in Manhattan the company even set him up working with a “World Famous” Trainer , their staff dietician, and it’s massage therapists. They even bribed him to lose weight! He worked out daily for 6 weeks, and lost a grand total of 6 pounds. He quickly gained that back, and to add insult to injury he gained another 6lbs. too! His final top weight was 228.
He resigned himself that he was simply “an obese person and that he’d never change.”
Then at 33 he met and started working with a local trainer in San Francisco. She helped him lose 40lbs. in only few months! Now 5 years later he’s dropped all of the wieght and kept it off with this trainers assistance. This guy has truly been in the trenches and come out on the other side.
Take a look at the 3 Key Factors-These factors are real. I see them creating success with clients and campers everyday.
The First Key to Change -Relate
Why this is important–“You form a new emotional relationship with a person or community that inspires or sustains hope. When you face an unreasonable or hopeless situation . You need the influence of seemingly “unreasonable” people to restore your hope-to make you believe that you can change and expect that you will change.”
—I’ve seen it with clients again and again. Being miserable in your own skin get’s you to me. But the relationships you build with your coach, training partners, and campers is what keeps you coming back. You’re not alone and on your own. You’re around people who want to encourage, support, work, and celebrate alongside you.
We always say the reason you join a group is to help get you through the inevitable down days. You need to have people around who believe in you before you believe in yourself.
Check out this on Social Support for Results-here
The Second Key to Change- Repeat
Why this is important– “The new relationship helps you learn, practice, and master the new habits and skills you’ll need. It takes a lot of repetitions over time before new patterns of behavior become automatic and seem natural-until you act the new way without even thinking about it. It helps tremendously to have a good teacher, coach, or mentor to give you guidance, encouragement, and direction along the way. Change doesn’t involve just “selling”; it requires “training.” ”
Q. Who get’s the best results?
A. Those who show up consistently. Even when you don’t “feel” like it. When it’s not convenient or comfortable to do so. The most successful clients show up no matter what. The campers getting the best results will train in the rain.
Check out Ken Links story-here
The Third Key to Change- Reframe
Why this is important–“The new relationship helps you learn new ways of thinking about your situation and your life. Ultimately, you look at the world in away that would have been so foreign to you that it wouldn’t have made any sense before you changed.”
This is huge. A lot of people fail because they think they’ll never be able to enjoy another meal again. So they never really change their diet. They might say they have. But the scale show’s a different story. They just can’t imagine life differently. So they don’t see any results and blame the program or the trainer or their parents or the rain.
what happens instead is clients get traction. In a few months they’re eating better than they ever have, fat is melting off, and they can’t stand their old food choices. None of this was on their radar before they started They just knew they wanted it off. Now they see and approach thing differently. They sleep better, they recover faster, hey have more confidence and get things done.
Check out Shelly Smiths story-here
Three things- relate, repeat, and reframe.
I see these thing working with my successful clients every day.
It answers the question “why do Body Firm Programs work when everything else has failed?
1. -You work with a coach that believes in you and will guide you to success. Introducing you to a group of supportive like minded people who are in pursuit of the same goals. Thats’ powerful.
2.-You show up consistently long enough to instill a new habit through repetition. Lot’s of repetition. Til the new habit is automatic.
3.- over time your brain changes(it’s in the book) and you see things that would have been impossible for you before.
If you don’t have these Keys in your program get them into your program.
I look forward to hearing about your success.