You’re going to hear a lot of talk this next month about goal-setting.
What you might not hear much about is how to get to actually get to these goals.
I know something about this-first question I ask a potential client is “what’s your goal?” So all year long it’s all about the goal setting.
But then how do you get to your goals?
That’s the kicker.
Let’s say the goal is lose 30 pounds?
You can find out exactly how to lose 30lbs on Google.
There’s 28,500,000 results. Why doesn’t this work, all the information you need is out there.
It’s obviously not having the information or how-to that keeps you from losing the weight, or getting to your goals.
How do you create real change in your life?
I came across an interesting book a few years ago. Change or Die and the author had looked for instances where a person or group had created real and lasting change, against the odds.
He looked at Cardiac patients, paroled criminals, and businesses that had to reinvent themselves or go out of business.
The fact is generally these 3 groups have a phenomenal failure rate.
Most cardiac patients don’t stop smoking, lose weight, exercise or change their diet-they tend to have another heart attack and die. Even though it could have been prevented.
Most paroled criminals end up back in jail and most business turnarounds fail.
But this book covered the successful cardiac rehab programs, the successful parole programs and the successful turnarounds.
And he found 3 common characteristics to all real and lasting change.
And for a goal to be reached these 3 things needed to be present.
We call it the 3 R’s of lasting change.
(BTW-this is the psychology of fat(weight ) loss. This is where it’s at today. )
1. Relationship-You need to build a relationship with a coach or a like minded group. Preferably both. Research has shown, and we see it all the time-the more support you have the better you’ll do.
2. Repetitions-you’ve got to stick with your new habits long enough-that your new habits become your habit.
You’ve got to get enough repetitions of your new behavior-til it becomes automatic. That this new thing, isn’t new anymore it’s just what you do.
This is one of the reasons I so easy to get into our 6 and 12 month programs, and I discourage the “one and done”. Because it’s a bad idea to dabble.
3. Reframing- This is where your brain changes. This is the part you can’t see on your first day, or first week.
That 4 or 5 weeks from now you’ll eat differently(and not feel deprived), you’ll exercise regularly(and miss it when you don’t).
All these changes that happen are counter-intuitive-“I’ll get up earlier and have more energy and feel better all day”, “I’ll eat mo lose weight”,” I’ll do less exercise but get better results”
But over time that’s what happens-the brain is plastic and reshapes itself to new habits.
The” new habits” slowly over time and through practice become your habit.
One thing I know for certain.
You can’t come into one of our body transformation programs and just change the outside. It just doesn’t work that way.
Your brain changes, your thoughts are better, your confidence in your abilities are increased, you see and approach thing differently.
There’s a positive carry over to other parts of your life.
It happens all the time.
When you change the outside it’s inevitable that the inside changes too.
You can’t have one without the other.